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Aloha

Below, you will find an example of how my typical wedding ceremony unfolds. This ceremony includes optional chants and lei exchanges and can be customized to include your own vows, poems, and other details to make your wedding vision a reality.  

Wedding Ceremony Script

POST PROCESSIONAL INTRO

    

Now that we are all seated and the attention has been brought to this beautiful ceremony. I would like to greet you all with this endearing word we have here in Hawaii that has been a Gift to the world, this word is ALOHA! (Group Replies back with ALOHA)

 

We must remind ourselves everyone, that this word ALOHA means much more than a simple Hello or Goodbye, ALO in the word ALOHA can mean to be in the presence of or face-to-face and HA carries the meaning of exhale, or understood as the breathe of life!  When we enter this world we breathe and when we leave this world we will breathe our last breath, and the wind that we feel is the breathe of the world that is a gift so we may all breathe.  So saying ALOHA to someone is that recognition of that life breathe that you share, you are telling them that they are a living being someone full of life and purpose and they share in this relationship just as we all do…And that you love them!  We are all so very fortunate today because we have these two very special people standing before us that love each other very much, and what we would like for them to do is to gaze into each others eyes for a moment, say ALOHA and give a kiss on the cheek!

 

PRESENCE & CENTERING

Now that we have witnessed the (BRIDE) and (GROOM)’s heart felt greeting to each other, Id like for each of us to say ALOHA to one another, to those sitting next to you and across from you. Because when we truly see each other, we recognize one another’s presence by saying something meaningful.

To begin, I invite us all to truly be here, to take a deep breathe in together and exhale, to clear our minds of any thoughts about the past or the future and to simply be here NOW in this present moment, this is where the sacred is present…And the way we do that everyone, is we have to engage all of our senses, just as much as these two chose one another to become husband and wife this day they also chose this place, this island of Maui.

All of you here at this ceremony are the representatives of their relations across the world, that is very significant and lends to the importance of this day, you all are family and friends being brought together closer, as these two are being united.  So I am asking for our full attentiveness this day everyone, because this celebration of love, this ceremony between BRIDE and GROOM is just a moment in the expanse of time and when this moment has passed us what we have left are the memories we create…so lets makes some beautiful memories everyone, because when we return to our own homes and get back to our daily lives, many times we may forget what is most important in our lives, and what is most important is happening at this very moment, friends, family, relationship and love!  So if you all agree with me and want to create beautiful memories, in Hawaii we say ‘AE which means YES a loud ‘AE from everyone on 3…1…2…3 (Listen for them)     

 

OPTINAL LEI EXCHANGE

Let us present to these two, what we have here for them, these gifts of love.  Here in Hawaii we have many sayings one of them is "E lei no au i ko ALOHA" which means I will cherish your love as a beautiful adornment.  

 

Here in Hawaii respect, honor, and ALOHA, which means compassion, empathy, love and grace is given to a person when placing a lei upon their shoulders.  This beautifully crafted lei with its handpicked flowers and twine is a symbol of that never ending love but it is also a symbol of those things that are fragile and temporal.  For this lei will be intact in their beauty for a day or two and then it is gone, our lives are like these lei in the span of eternity so live with tender consideration for each other BRIDE and GROOM.  Love one another with all of your hearts and remember that when you exchange these lei you are weaving your own lei of love to last for all time, Do you agree to share your gifts love with each other?  (Give the GROOM the lei first, when he places it, then give the lei to the BRIDE)

OLI ALOHA

This gift is a chant and a prayer, whichever word you prefer because they mean the same thing here in Hawaii.  This prayer is called Oli ALOHA, a chant of love and of greeting, in part what it says is this here is the sight that had longed to be seen between these two, a desire which had filled with eagerness, and now that this moment has arrived love has been brought with them, not only evident with all of you here physically but also loved ones companions family and friends who have touched their lives in a significant way that may not be here physically but are here in spirit…This prayer recognizes them and acknowledges their presence-

Onaona i ka hala me ka Lehua

He hale lehua no ia na ka noe

O ka’u no ia e ‘ano’i nei

E li’a nei ho’i o ka hiki mai

A hiki mai no ‘oukou

A hiki pu no me ke aloha

Aloha e…Aloha e…Aloha e

“As you two look into each others eyes”  There was a seeking of a loved one GROOM and she has been found in BRIDE.  A mate has been found someone to share the chills of winter with and the warmth of summer a  beloved companion to share in the beauties and the wonders of this world, also in the triumphs over the challenges in life great journey.  Love has made a plea that the two of you shall be united here on Maui, “And everyone, that plea is being answered, the dream is being realized at this very moment, so give them a round of applause to congratulate them on getting married today!!” 

 

GREETING & WELCOMING

We are all here on this beautiful day of (DATE) to witness the unification of (BRIDE) and (GROOM) here at (LOCATION).  Its on this day that these have chosen to affirm their love for one another with spoken words, music, and prayer, most importantly the sharing of sacred vows and the giving of tokens of their everlasting love for each other their wedding rings.  

“Every experience you have ever had, everything you have ever done, and every lesson that you have learned has brought you here!  And as you stand before these witnesses this day, your family and friends, Please look towards them…As you stand here before them, you are taking each other as HUSBAND and WIFE, And We must remind ourselves everyone that what we see  here are not simply two individuals, they are the totality of all of their experiences and relationships, which includes all of you.  

 

This I know is another hope, prayer, and wish from all of you present that this love they have for each other will grow, strengthen and be perpetuated.  That they will continue to do the things that made them fall in love with each other in the first place.  And that they will do those every day, daily things for each other, showing one another that they are willing to work for this love/relationship/marriage…

 

We all know marriage is love and marriage also requires each of you to work and to learn with each other.  I know if you were to ask anyone who has been married for many year, they will tell you that this labour of love will deepen and enrich every facet of your lives.  You will become better teachers and listeners, better lovers and confidents, you will become better friends and beloveds for each other.  

 

Marriage is LOVE everyone, and we all know that LOVE is standing before us this day, a LOVE that is real and true, for LOVE is what is most important in our lives.  It is the creator of our favorite memories, and is the foundation of our fondest of dreams…As I have heard it said, that the most WONDERFUL of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom ones relationship has a growing depth, and beauty and joy as the years increase.  This inner progressiveness of love between two people is a most marvelous thing and it cannot simply be found or wished for you two, it is called by DIVINE DESTINY.  So it is my own hope, wish, and prayer for you that all of your family and friends, those that love you, will continue to be there for you, to love you, to guide you, to share with you and support you, as you continue on your LIFES JOURNEY to fulfill your destinies together!  

 

“If you all agree and promise to be there for them, through the highs and the lows, no matter the circumstance, a loud ‘AE from all of you on 3…1…2…3!”

DECLARATION OF INTENT

 

(Groom/Bride) do you give yourself to (Groom/Bride) this day with complete joy and love as your partner in this life’s journey, and to be a true, faithful (Husband/Wife).  Do you with heart felt intention profess/commit to be their companion to comfort (him/her), respect (him/her), cherish, love and honor (him/her) for the rest of your days?  If so say “I DO”

WEDDING VOWS REPEATED AFTER ME

I (Groom/Bride) choose you (Groom/Bride) for my wedded (Husband/Wife) to be your companion, equal in love, to be faithful and honest, to help and support you, through loss and success. I shall seek through kindness and understanding to achieve with you the life we have envisioned.  I vow to love you unconditionally, to cherish you entirely, to care for you sincerely, holding your love as the most precious gift as we make this journey together.

RING PRESENTATION

        

For as long as time can be remembered the ring has been symbolic of the completed bond.  The ring, as it has been said is without beginning and without end.  Yet we must remind ourselves that there is a generative and creative force, that urges and prompts life to be created.  Just as the two of you stand here, in your own circle, beginning a life together, so too these rings will represent Circles of love, Circles of LIFE. 

 

These rings are given and received as tokens of endearing and diligent love, so with that being said, look into each others eyes.  

“This is a hope, a wish, and a prayer from all of your family and friends, those that care for you most, that the two of you will continue to see the best in each other each and every day that you are together.  That you will LOVE one another with all of your hearts, and whenever you are away from each other you will know that you are never truly apart.  Because these rings will serve as reminders of the special love that you share, the sacred vows that you have declared to one another this day, all of the cherished memories you hold dear, and they will be that physical representation of the spiritual bond and commitment that unites you both, can you do that for each other?”

 

EXCHANGE OF THE RINGS

Now repeat these words after me as you place this ring on your (Husband/Wife).

This ring is my sacred gift to you, a symbol of my Love, a sign from this day, my love will surround you, I give myself to you to be your (Husband/Wife) and from this moment on, you will never walk alone.  I feel so honored to have you as my (Husband/Wife).  I love you with all of my heart.  All that I have, and all that I have said, I seal it with this ring. 

CLOSING

 

GROOM and BRIDE, you have been united as ONE.  May you share in each other Joys and console one another in your sorrows, HELP each other in all of life, care for each other truly and deeply putting this commitment before all else, if you LIVE for your LOVE, your LOVE will continue to LIVE.  Trust in life and most importantly TRUST in each other, being HUSBAND and WIFE is the sweetest most enduring relationship, so no matter what highs and lows you go through now you are more united than ever before. 

 

My last little prayer for you both,

“May beauty surround you in the journey ahead, may happiness be your constant companion, and may your days together be good and long upon this EARTH”  Let us all say MAHALO!  Mahalo is much more than expressing a thank you, it is a condition that you are in, a STATE of BEING, and that is gratitude, honor, and appreciation.

MAY PEACE AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE SURROUND YOU BOTH NOW AND FOREVERMORE

SO BY THE POWER OF ALL THAT IS SACRED

I NOW PRONOUNCE YOU HUSBAND and WIFE! YOU MAY SEAL YOUR VOW WITH A LONG KISS!

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